I cant change whats already happened; I just want to find the right way to deal with it and move on. Shes always had her head on straight, I dont think for a second she would allow anyone to pressure her into anything she didnt want to do, and Ive always believed she is WAY more sensible than I was at that age. He also said that he would do anything he could possibly do to show that he really cares for her. He has refused many times to even meet the Guy when he thought they were just friends, and now has labeled Guy a sick pervert.
I dont think hes some sicko perv, but I AM uncomfortable with the age difference.
I've been a lurker here for some time, and I've seen some great advice given out. I found out that my 17 (18 in 6 months) year old daughter is dating a 25 year old guy that she had previously only been friends with, and Im not sure how to handle this.
First off, my Daughter is a smart, funny, mature, independent girl with a lot of friends and who does very well in school, and is preparing for college next year. She broke up with her last boyfriend (who was her age) because he always had drama going on around him, and unlike a lot of teenagers I know, she hates drama. ) Daughter met him some months ago when her friend got her uncle (The Guy) to drive them to the mall.
It took weeks of hanging out, hooking up, and marathon texting for him to finally come clean about his DOB, and here’s why: he was nearly 20 years my senior. This revelation initially creeped me out—had I really made out with a 44-year-old? After all, I’d heard there were so many perks to dating older guys. After months of testing out the alleged benefits of dating older, I know better.
This is the kind of stuff for him to work out with his therapist, not you.
So the last few weeks, I notice her texting and talking on the phone to Guy more and more. She and I have discussed sex, safe sex, responsibility and consequences on numerous occasions, and she has confided in me about some of her friends activities; some that she disagrees with.
I start to question her on the nature of their relationship. On that note, I feel she is comfortable talking and being open with me.
This whole time, Ive been constantly asking why is a 25 year old guy ok with hanging out with a group of 17-18 year olds? But Daughter said that Guy doesnt drink and all his friends do, and he doesnt like to hang out with a bunch of drunk people. By now, Ive met Guy a few times and he actually seems like a nice person. Her dad and I (We are divorced, but try to keep a united front in the raising of the kids) found out they have been dating for a while and are possibly having sex.Parents must also deal with their daughter's often stubborn intention to date this young man.She may be so infatuated with him that she views anything that her parents say against the relationship as a personal attack.) mother, I probably would have given him fake digits digits instead. This dude was incredibly well-preserved and rolling with some friends who appeared to be about my age. And at that moment, it seemed appropriate to ask his age. His former priorities are in upheaval and he’s going through a second adolescence.There was no way I could have guessed how much older he was. So I did, and I got a mysterious answer: “Guess.” I guessed. He may be riddled with guilt about his poor life choices, or looking to re-live his youth by seeking the kind of comfort that only a gorgeous 20-something can offer.