The surprised looks by strangers were one thing, but the harsh comments made to me by fellow Indians, especially men, implying that I had somehow betrayed Indian men as a collective, came as quite a shock to me.
I have been trying to grapple with this response and believe it all boils down, as do most issues, to racism and sexism.
To a young Tamil Singaporean woman like me, the concept of racism is nothing new or inconceivable.
One of the most telling incidents occured more than a year ago when a friend was using online dating site OKCupid.He limped into town in the middle of the night, beaten and bitter. Or when a used car salesman tries to sell you a hoopty hidden under a coat of fresh paint. His tongue pierces and his eyes burn, and he knows when to turn it on. So it was recently that I’d received a text from the drifter, the rolling stone, late in the night as I slept lightly, listening to the clacking of naked tree branches violently snapping against one another just outside my window during a windstorm. He’s at it again, reeling about the bigotry and arrogance of the GOP, of Boehner and Ryan and other tea-type tarts. Kill two birds – meet him for a drink forget all about the maniacal religious who light up shopping malls with bullets & bombs in the name of their God, or maybe I’d rather expel the image of that dog, chained to a fence, left in the bitter cold. He’s the kind of mouth and muscle you need in Little Italy, New York, in December when some sour grifter attempts to fleece you for the cost of a cheap “I (Heart) New York” sweater. 6 PM, FOLLOWING DAY: Al Sharpton goes off like a grandfather clock, booming and bellowing about 20 yards away from my desk at the other end of this studio in Rock Center. All the while his fat owner sits naked on a soiled recliner, ignoring the whimper coming from outside. Yes, the wire was foul, and I needed to take my mind off it, at least for a night. I wanted to sink into the floor when my teacher in Secondary School declared that she, a Chinese woman, would never date an Indian man.So you can imagine my genuine surprise when I flew to Europe for a university exchange programme and started to be on the receiving end of a fair amount of male attention.