For me, and many other women like me, it all begins with a number. Before agreeing to a set-up, as a follow-up response or even playing a flirtatious game, I always find the answer to the question, “So, how old are you? And if you don't know who the Seavers are from “Growing Pains,” then you don't stand a chance.As much of our generation is delaying activities like marriage and procreating, we are, in effect, also prolonging its adolescence.Yes, the woman fit for The Total Package will be the ultimate icing on his cake of perfection.He imagines her often—gorgeous as they come, she turns heads; bursting with charm and charisma, she lights up every room she enters; she’s a brilliant rising star in her career and beloved by her many friends.(Then again, just because a guy wants to date a younger girl, doesn't necessarily mean she wants to date him!)As a woman over 30, I decided to try to get to the bottom of this conundrum by asking a series of straight, unmarried men in their 20s, 30s, 40s and 50s to find out why some actually prefer to date “older” women.Without those weightier responsibilities, Millennial boys (or, for the most part, the ones I've encountered) are living this suspended fratboy mentality.Thus, we ladies have looked to older men to fulfill those more grown-up needs.
So, now that I've glorified older men enough (don't worry, young, 20-something lads, your day will come…
The Total Package is an athlete, a musician, and an avid traveler.
The Total Package is handsome—and you better believe he’s well-groomed.
You know those girls who refuse to date anyone younger than they are, much less anyone their own age? ) And I obviously have the matching theory as to why to go along with it (naturally, it involves being the younger sister).
They have a specific, thought-out reasoning as to why they're only romantically compatible with guys who are older… Throughout my entire love life — or whatever you want to call what has been 23 years of going through men, some for longer than others — I have never so much as lusted after any guy who is younger than I am. Without going too much into my dating career, the main factor in all of my relationships — significant or otherwise — has always been the man's age.