Clinical studies have been carried out that assessed the intelligence of people after being asked to relive a particularly painful memory.
It seems that the feeling of rejection and the emotional pain it causes is enough to fog rational thinking and actually reduce a person’s IQ, especially when it comes to short-term memory tasks and particularly decision-making.
But reality finds a way of stomping on those dreams with big ol’ boots.
See, I was great at doing the kattas and perfecting my form and even things like breaking boards and blocks… I was constantly playing defense, always backing away, passing up on openings to strike… Not surprisingly, I approached my dating life the same way: I didn’t want to get rejected, so I was continually playing it safe.
You can do this by examining what exactly you’re afraid of here, and what would really happen if what you fear comes true.Your desire for love and connection fades as bad experiences and insecurity take over – and choosing to stay home alone, instead of going out into uncertain and scary dating territory, becomes an easier and easier decision. Ask yourself: is passive longing really better than active striving?People who do this often end up being alone for very long periods – years and decades. If we didn’t fear the outcome of our actions we would all be much more successful in life. Fear of rejection is essentially fear of disapproval.I went to eight different schools in five years, rejection upon rejection.I can so clearly remember playing on my own, always the new girl, always craving acceptance!