(Karen 1992) Man’s main task in life is to give birth to himself, to become what he potentially is.The most important product of his effort is his own personality.(Peter Gill 1995) Guilt implies responsibility; and however painful guilt is, it may be preferable to helplessness.
(Freud 1923) Putting shame into words with a trusted companion enables one to step outside it – it no longer seems to permeated one’s entire being – and allows some self-forgiveness to emerge.And then there is that fleeting moment when you catch yourself wondering what your child will tell his or her therapist about you one day! And so, we worry in private about how we rate as parents, how our actions will affect our kids.So painful is this festering guilt, we tend to keep it buried; a conversation we have with ourselves in the quiet of the night.If only they would forego their virtuous appearances and share their truths with each other, they would feel so relieved to see they are not alone! Parents everywhere agonize in secret: "Where did I go wrong?Will my child be damaged because of what I did, or because of what I failed to do?