A few days have gone by since the excitement and my heart is torn, I feel guilty for even dating a man who doesn’t follow Jesus.The idea of my Christian friends ridiculing me for potentially marrying a no Christian and even worse the idea of disappointing God himself is bumming me out. It’s wrong to start pounding on someone just because you disapprove of something that they’ve said or done.“Verily I say unto you: do not vex me, lest I begin soundly thrashing you about your head and ears, you vapid dinkwad” is be, anyway)? If you know someone who is in a committed relationship of which you do not approve, an excellent question to ask yourself—especially before venturing to offer any opinion on that relationship—is whether or not anyone but you gives a rolled-up church bulletin what you think of that relationship.There are plenty of them, but let's focus on what I believe are the top five myths that make dating harder for Christian men.Myth #1: "God has one woman picked out for you to marry.Especially if you grew up in the church, you’ve probably heard people say that Christians should not marry non-Christians.And since dating is the first step toward marriage, it follows that Christians should not date non-Christians either. I have met so many believers who—when times got tough or lonely—ditched that rule and started a relationship with an unbeliever. “My boyfriend acts more like a Christian than my Christian friends do,” they say.There are some myths out there that people assume to be gospel about dating.
For her, well, I don’t know what her foundation is—and maybe she doesn’t either.
- Tired of Being Single Dear Tired, First of all, I get where you’re coming from.
When you meet someone you really like, it’s easy to start making compromises on some of the things you were originally looking for.
But if you two are doing this thing together, there’s got to be a common sense of purpose and mission.
Without that, you spin your wheels alone and eventually get tired of explaining how you feel God’s calling on your life.