While it may be tempting to tell a man you’re friends with that you’re attracted to him in a romantic way, you’ll get nowhere if he’s not already attracted to you. He won’t want anything more than a fling or a friends–with–benefits type of arrangement.And if you want more, you’re only going to end up getting hurt.
Hopefully you will all have fun meeting singles and try out this online dating thing... Nothing went wrong; each date taken alone was enjoyable, but it just wasn't going to develop into a long term boyfriend/girlfriend relationship. You tried to change the dynamic and it didn’t work.
I was involved with a man for the last 6 months who is going through a nasty divorce and not ready for a relationship.
He is also a complete mess so I have gone into high life coach mode—which is what I do very well and he loves this about me.
If it had been the other way around – if my roommate had been totally into him, and he just considered her a pal – this would never have gone further than friendship.
She would also have ended up feeling humiliated and wounded.