If your sweetie's attentive and asks you about your life, that's fantastic.
An abuser may insult his spouse, stop her from seeing family or friends, try to control the family finances,where the spouse goes and what she wears; act jealous or possessive; threaten her with violence; force her to have sex or put blame on her for his violent behavior. The abuser abuses his spouse then feels guilty about it.
Domestic violence is once again in the forefront of the news.
This is in part due to abusive incidents with sports figures or celebrities that have become very public.
He will make excuses for his behavior and tries to keep the relationship together.
The abuser will start planning another attack and then follow through with the plan and start abusing his spouse again.