Feeling jealous or upset is considered stupid, since you would have never had a chance with that person, anyway.You're expected to simply shrug off when you start talking to someone at a bar and they look at you with thinly-veiled disgust or do their best to move away from you to get to better-looking people.Street harassment is supposed to be seen as a compliment. "Someone's paying attention to you, shouldn't you be happy?You're supposed to be happy if someone leans creepily over you in a bar and tries to chat you up, and if that attention is unwanted, you're looked upon as strange or ungrateful. "Conversely, you're expected to grin and bear it when prettier friends grab the attention of someone you're interested in.Years ago, Mad TV used to have a skit called "Lowered Expectations." It made fun of video dating ads, and usually had someone who was considered "weird" or "undesirable" creating an unintentionally funny video to place on a dating website or program.I used to laugh a lot at this, because at the time, it seemed funny.Re: c) — your looks have everything to do with how a guy feels about you. Men are far more visually driven than women for all kinds of anthropological, biological and cultural reasons. Yes, there are times when men fall in love with a woman who is completely not his physical type because her beautiful soul shined so brightly that it blinded him to her overt physical shortcomings. [I then added a couple full-body shots to my profile, and thanked him for the tip. You’re lonely and you know very well that few men like very heavy women.
Ask five women what their ideal male build is and you’ll get six different answers.
I'm pretty average, and being fat, I've been told some pretty unbelievable things when it comes to dating.
It's insinuated that if you're not perfect, you should get ready to settle for whoever pays attention to you.
Every once in a while, I like to poll my readers on the Nerd Love Facebook Page and on Twitter to find out what issues they feel are holding them back when it comes to dating.
And the most common answer is: “I worry that I’m too fat to date.” I’ll be honest: I’m not surprised. According to the Center for Disease Control, 69% of adults 20 years old and over are overweight and 35% are considered obese.