It is also worth noting that most often discuss this from the point of view of a man contacting a woman, since that was my experience, but my hope is that the thoughts here are helpful to anyone.
This discussion is primarily for sites such as where you write the online dating first message yourself (see more on how works if you’re not familiar with what I’m referring to).
If you met an attractive man at a party, you would be showing him your best side and flirting up a storm. For some women that sounds horrid but in real life we do it all the time.
You are literally marketing yourself to the male population online.
The only difference is in real life you have time to immediately correct a faux pas.
So you need your profile to show you off in a way that will catch a man's eye and interest right away. You might laugh more at his jokes, you pay closer attention to what he says, and you show your best side. Excitement is what you want a man feeling when he's done reading what you've written.
The answer to that may seem obvious, but just in case it isn’t let me say: writing a great first message in online dating is critical to success or failure in your dating life.
Bottom line: a dating profile—your first impression—is “sell copy,” and you’re the product being marketed.
The trick for you as “Boy” to get the biggest bang for your buck is to optimize your pitch so it will best appeal to Girl’s brain with content that directly tags her where Cupid lives.
If the myriad of profile questions asked overwhelm you, stop, take a deep breath, and focus on answering each question in a way that best represents who you really are.
What follows are some generic profile questions, along with suggested unique answers and explanations as to how they’ll help get you noticed.