Should I just simply make it clear to him by sending him an email that we actually have nothing in common and that I am not his friend?
Or just continue to do my own stuff and not making any contacts to him?
First and foremost, before either of you decide to really go through with this transition, make sure that you’re both ready and willing.
If you’re the one pushing the subject and your friend is just going along with it, things are not going to end well.
We work in the same field and our bond is not only personal, it’s professional. I witnessed it in action with the last girl he dated. And then, this was the thing he said that stumped me: “We’re such great friends and I think we would be such a great couple, but I can’t figure out how we get from one to the other.” That shut me up. Trust me, I have faced more than my fair share of dating dilemmas in my love life, and I’ve usually known (or at least been able to eventually figure out) how to handle them.
One of the members of this group is a guy that has been a close friend of mine for the last two years. When he declared his feelings, or attraction, or whatever, he followed that up immediately by saying that he was afraid that he would hurt me or let me down in some way.
Norms and expectations change as you transition from friends to more than friends, and opposite-sex quasi-romantic friends often avoid talking about the status of their relationship and what they expect from each other.
As for what facilitates the transition, your social network can play a big role.
Also, things in your social circle may get a bit awkward for a little while.Make sure you’re both on board and make sure you’re on the same page so that the transition from friends to lovers isn’t one-sided or tension-filled.Transitioning from friends to lovers can go really well or it can go badly.to figure out if a friend has romantic feelings without exposing their true thoughts.If you want to test the waters with a friend you have a crush on, you might try: a) asking a mutual friend (third-party) to find out if the “friend” actually does have romantic feelings (sort of the adult version of sending a note that says "do you like me?